Let's talk about "alone" - because we all have a different definition for it. There's PHYSICALLY alone (as in a self-imposed recluse with nothing but old newspapers and canned goods to rant at). PHYSICAL solitude is, at best, temporary. Just ask Tom Hanks in that dreadful piece of crap movie he made where he befriended a volleyball (I think it's called Life of Pi). And where do you get those newspapers and canned goods if not for interaction anyway. There's EMOTIONAL alone (that's where, if you're like me, you feel/fear/resent that no one really gets you so you just sort of plug along to your own drummer and hope no one really notices how standoffish you really are). There's MENTAL alone. This one is tough and I presume is where most of you who feel "alone" get your angst from - this is the "alone" where you have a spouse, family, friends, colleagues but feel betrayed, abandoned, left out, or otherwise neglected. They don't get you. They don't pay enough attention to you. They don't ask you often enough what you think of the Royal Couple crapping out the next generation of disappointing heirs to an irrelevant throne. Poor you.
I'm sure there are other forms of alone (I'm not a shrink, but I've sure annoyed my share of them over the years).
I don't care - truly - what form of alone you might feel. I don't really give much attention to people who claim how unfortunate it is to be "alone, especially 'this time' of year" and I certainly don't think it is appropriate to whisper about or pass along "sympathies" to those you believe/fear to be "alone" in any way/manner/shape/form - this time of year or otherwise. I'll say something direct here . . . most of the time I wish there were LESS people out there trying to love, support, befriend, and otherwise give me time, attention, and energy I don't otherwise want/need/deserve. I don't want to be alone - I love people, discussions, helping, being a good friend, etc. I just don't want anyone to equate divorce with being alone. What I DO want is some alone time to watch a little online porn and make a few bad decisions between right and left.
I am quick to argue with (calmly, at first) people who claim to be alone and I'm more than happy to toss it up with people who try to imply their pity is needed by a person not having the greatest time of their life when they sit out the 3-legged race at the county fair. I just don't care for the whole argument.
Why my apathy? Simple. ALONE does not exist. It does not. It has never happened to a human being and it will never happen to a human being. I'm going to go one farther (since your probably offended already if you're going to be) none of you that claim to be "alone" or claim to have good intentions in worrying about the "alone" are even focused on what is actually going on.
- Someone who has no spouse is not ALONE - they've not found/have lost someone that they truly connect with and can share their life with.
- People who don't have a bunch of family within an area code or general proximity are not ALONE. They just won't be spending a particular moment with them but it doesn't mean they aren't connected in thought, words, and video chat. OR it means they are far away for a reason (families are all insane, yo).
- If you're seated at a table for one in a restaurant, you are not ALONE - you are a having a me party. You can leave your manners at home. Enjoy. Eat up. Get dessert.
- If someone you know has no social plans on a Friday night, they are not ALONE - they just don't have any desire to hit the local cinaplex, discotheque, or coffee house. Maybe they wanted a few hours of peace and quiet. For the 167th week in a row.
- If you don't feel like anyone "gets" you or "respects" you - that is probably because, like me, you're an asshole and/or people presume you to be one. Probably the prior.